Tag: conflict avoidance

Awfully Nice

  Awfully Nice or Why Nice People Won’t Be in Heaven This Year of Not Being Nice was meant to free and empower me, not expose me. To change how others treat me, not how I treat myself and… Read More

What Do You Mean I’m the Elder Sister? But I’m So . . . Nice

This “Year of Not Being Nice” has been good and bad.  Good in that I’m learning to stand up, speak truth in love, and break my auto-apologizing habit. Family and friends see less of Saint Nancy the Nice… Read More

Bobbleheads Unite!

Niceness Recovery Step 4: Break the Nod-and-Smile Habit Have you ever found yourself nodding non-stop with a fixed smile on your face while someone is berating or belittling you, fast-talking you to do something you don’t want to do,… Read More

The Year of Not Saying “I’m Sorry”

  If anyone remembers the old movie “Love Story” (let’s say it’s not on Netflix’ radar), the first thing that comes to mind is that eye-rolling line, Love Means Never Having to Say You’re Sorry. That statement only… Read More

Why This is Not the Year to Call Me “Nice”

  I ace all courses on conflict avoidance and other-people’s-anger management. I disappear at a whiff of relational difficulty. So, anytime I’ve stepped into the fight, I remember. Like the time, years ago, when I plucked up the… Read More