Tag: courage

The Top Ten Things I Learned from the Year of Not Being Nice

  The Year of Not Being Nice was launched because I was tired of being the bobble head N.I.C.E gal and wanted to break free from bland to brave. I didn’t expect my bravery to come from unmasking… Read More

Jesus Did Not Come and Die to Make Me Nice

The Year of Not Being Nice has been harder than I thought. It is much easier to be nice—no conflicts, no controversy, no rocking the boat. It’s easier to be a bobble head. Some people have challenged me, “Really?… Read More

What Do You Mean I’m the Elder Sister? But I’m So . . . Nice

This “Year of Not Being Nice” has been good and bad.  Good in that I’m learning to stand up, speak truth in love, and break my auto-apologizing habit. Family and friends see less of Saint Nancy the Nice… Read More

Bobbleheads Unite!

Niceness Recovery Step 4: Break the Nod-and-Smile Habit Have you ever found yourself nodding non-stop with a fixed smile on your face while someone is berating or belittling you, fast-talking you to do something you don’t want to do,… Read More

How Would You Answer This Question?

Are you willing to make a decision which would cost someone else? Bill, my husband, and I are opposites on the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator® except for one: we’re both perceivers. We never stop seeking more options and hate… Read More

How Barney and Aunt Bee Helped Me Get Back on the “Brave Wagon”

  Confession: I recently suffered a niceness relapse. I fell off the buck-up-and-be-brave-wagon and scrambled back on the “niceness” hamster wheel which doesn’t take me anywhere but to self pity and exhaustion. Let’s say (hypothetically of course) that… Read More

The Hall of Fame of Not-Nice People

  In this Year of Not Being Nice, I’m compiling a list of role models in courage and conviction, men and women who take their place instead of being put into someone else’s place for them. These are people… Read More

The Year I Got What I Wanted for My Birthday

Who knew not being nice meant I got what I wanted for my birthday and stopped frustrating my family at the same time? Go figure. I don’t know if it’s a “Nice-Person” trait or just me, but for birthdays (and… Read More

What Did You Want to Be When You Grew Up?

“Once upon a time, there was a woman who discovered she had turned into the wrong person.” Anne Tyler, Back When We Were Grownups Growing up, our family moved every three to four years so books became my… Read More

Why This is Not the Year to Call Me “Nice”

  I ace all courses on conflict avoidance and other-people’s-anger management. I disappear at a whiff of relational difficulty. So, anytime I’ve stepped into the fight, I remember. Like the time, years ago, when I plucked up the… Read More