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The Year of Not Saying “I’m Sorry”

  If anyone remembers the old movie “Love Story” (let’s say it’s not on Netflix’ radar), the first thing that comes to mind is that eye-rolling line, Love Means Never Having to Say You’re Sorry. That statement only… Read More

What Did You Want to Be When You Grew Up?

“Once upon a time, there was a woman who discovered she had turned into the wrong person.” Anne Tyler, Back When We Were Grownups Growing up, our family moved every three to four years so books became my… Read More

Why This is Not the Year to Call Me “Nice”

  I ace all courses on conflict avoidance and other-people’s-anger management. I disappear at a whiff of relational difficulty. So, anytime I’ve stepped into the fight, I remember. Like the time, years ago, when I plucked up the… Read More

Getting to the Root of Niceness

  . . . or Why You Wouldn’t Have Wanted to Be a “Nice Girl” in Chaucer’s Time You learn a lot by studying the history of a word. The Latin root of “nice” is nescius (picture Toula’s… Read More

Nice People Anonymous

  Niceness Recovery Step 1 Admit you have a problem. As a recovering “nice” person, the first step I took was to confess it to my husband. My name is Nancy.  And I’m a nice-aholic. I told him… Read More

The Year of Not Being Nice or What I Gave Up for Lent

My new year’s resolution is to stop being so “nice.” Don’t get me wrong. I’m not going to start being nasty. It just means I don’t want to end up with this on my tombstone: Of course, I… Read More